Here’s the thing about being added to someone’s favorite list: you’re not really a favorite. You’re one of that person’s favorites and that’s significantly less flattering.
This is especially galling when the person adds you as a favorite and then doesn’t get back to you for a while. When this happens, it gives the impression that he or she will “get to you” once they’ve contacted their other, more favorite, favorites.
Can you see how labeling someone a favorite could make you one their least favorites?
I understand that there are a lot of potential matches online and that a favorites list is an easy way to organize them. However, I strongly suggest you find another way. In fact, I have a very simple tip:
Keep a folder with screen shots of the profiles.
It’s an easy way to organize those matches who you’d like to contact. In addition, it allows you to keep a full record of their story and interests.
More importantly, it accomplishes what you need without the risk of repelling the very people you’re trying to attract.
Question for you.
Do you say yay or nay to winks and likes? For me, it’s an instant “nay”, what about you?
The best way to be “the” favorite.
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