Online Dating Advice
I regularly review excerpts from random dating profiles (for anonymity). Pointing out dos and don’ts from real profiles can help you improve on your own personal branding.
Online dating. More on writing that first email.
To make your email stand out among the others, think up an interesting subject line. After all, your online love interest might get a lot of messages in a day so your subject line has to be an attention grabber. Ideally, try to base it on something you both have in common. Keep your first email short but informative. I’ve had emails sent to me that said “Hi. How are you?” or, “Hi. Tell me about yourself.” I find that… read more →
How to break ice with an online love interest.
Can’t figure out what to talk about in those first few emails. Here are some tips: First, be sure to read the person’s dating profile. There should be some mutual interests that you can zero in like movies, music or activities. Better still; look for the fun quirky aspects of your online love interest. Does he or she have unusual taste in music or food that you can ask about? What about you – do you have a silly quirk… read more →
Online dating and safety.
People hear bad stories about online dating then assume that it’s unsafe and filled with perverts. Fact is, everyone has had a bad date whether they met online or not. This is not just an online phenomenon. If you think about it, there are horror stories about everything from restaurants to hotel bed sheets (sorry) but we overcome, right? Consider this: when you take up online dating, you know you’re dealing with strangers. As such and thankfully, most of us… read more →
If your online date doesn’t turn out, blame chemistry.
Presumably wisdom comes with age. I guess I must be eternally youthful because no matter how old I get, I still don’t understand, and can’t explain, chemistry. I’ve been attracted to men who were not at all physically attractive and I’ve not been attracted to men who were good looking. Chemistry is inexplicable. As such, it’s also a great scapegoat for singles online dating. If your online date wants a second date and you don’t, you can always minimize the… read more →
When your online date doesn’t turn out to be anywhere near “the one”.
You’ve sent emails back and forth through your dating site. You’ve spoken on the phone a number of times. Now you’re there – you’ve made it to the first date with your online suitor. Great, right? Not really. For some reason the chemistry isn’t there. Sometimes there’s nothing “wrong” with the person but there’s nothing really “right” about the person either. So now what? I say, show class and see the date through. If they aren’t creepy, scary, vile or… read more →
How long do you invest in that first online date?
Some people have “interview” dates where they meet and chat briefly over coffee before deciding whether or not to have “real” follow up date. Give me a break! How many people are great under that kind of pressure? Unless you’re meeting a standup comic or Anthony Robbins (who, btw, is married), chances are most people – including yourself – won’t be able to come across dynamic, interesting, sincere, friendly, funny, hip, cool, different “in a good way”, sexy, sweet, affectionate,… read more →
Even dummies date!
I just found out there’s a “Dating for Dummies” book. There are so many books out there for dummies that I feel like an idiot for not having one. I’m lying. I have two – one on yoga and another on European history. I’ve read neither so that makes me a moron for wasting my money. That said, apparently Dating for Dummies has been well received. Psychologist Joy Browne covers a number of pertinent topics so that singles enjoy dating… read more →
How much do you pay to be date-worthy?
I heard a radio show recently asserting that, every month, single men and women spend between $100 to a full $1000 on dates, as well as everything to do with dating from buying the perfect fitting shirt to getting the hopeful bikini wax. I don’t know how accurate the stat is but I do believe that singles spend a fair bit of their change and time on looking attractive. Yet they’ll join a dating site and spend little time and… read more →
Dating sites that hide age, are you out there?
It’s too bad that online dating sites, which are a fairly new trend, are in the dark ages themselves. I’d love to see sites pop up that didn’t require you to post your age or, at the very least, kept ages hidden. Though age can be relevant if you want kids, what’s more important than posting your age, in that case, is posting whether or not you want children. If age were removed or hidden from online dating sites, t… read more →
Age discrimination in online dating searches.
It’s true that singles often have a cut off “ideal age” when they do searches dating sites. However, generally speaking, people tend to be curious about who’s out there and, if someone is attracted to your photo and profile, they’ll contact you. I’ve heard that men search for younger women. I’m not convinced. I’ve known many men, especially those in the boomer ages, who really enjoy the company of women their own age and they feel more comfortable with them. … read more →
