In revising the dating profile of a client, I removed the words, “I’m a happy, positive person who likes to have fun” from her original essay. This concerned her because she felt I had deleted the best aspect of her personality. In truth, that she was so upbeat was a wonderful part of her character and I loved doing her profile for that very reason. However, I didn’t need to use the adjectives “happy, positive, fun” because I had used some of her anecdotes (shared with me through the quiz on my site) instead. These anecdotes didn’t say what kind of person she was; they demonstrated it.
Be different and you
Anecdotes are your own personal stories. No one in the world can claim the exact same experiences (and responses to these experiences). As such, anecdotes are the best way to make your unique self stand out.
Anyone can say “I’m fun. I’m happy”. In fact, too many people do. Yet, proving it through your own life experiences – real anecdotes – is the way to make these broad attributes become particular to you. Well, that is, if you aren’t a shape shifting body snatcher.
Actually, even if you are a body double entity, you’d have to at least appear to have your own anecdotes because then there’s just no way you’d be able to live amongst us unnoticed.
So my advice still holds.
In advertising, the term Unique Selling Proposition is used to describe a characteristic – usually a benefit – that makes a product stand out and appear more advantageous than a string of similar products.
In online dating, your USP is you.
Consider this: you’re out there among an enormous group of people, all of whom share many of the same interests, lifestyles, career choices, even fashion choices, as you do. So to stand out among them, you need to feature the one thing that no one else can claim and that is your experiences. Anecdotes are the only way to promote yourself in a way that no one else can. So use these. Not only are they unique to you, they’re also a personal enough touch to provide potential suitors with a sense of familiarity. This is enormously helpful in making strangers feel at ease enough to approach you.
Then again, instead of writing about your anecdotes yourself, you can always hire me to do it. I’ll know what anecdotes to make your profile its most engaging, better still I know how to write it all very persuasively. It’s what I’m trained to do.
Check out the online dating samples of my work. Better still, go straight to the personality quiz. It costs nothing to do, but will help you uncover some of your unique traits, which is the first step in writing an online dating profile that stands out.
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