Usually, my tweets and blogs provide self-marketing advice that gets doled out with a fair bit of humor. As such, both singles and couples can enjoy them. The more entertaining blogs get posted on Fridays.
At the start of the week, however, I post more straightforward blogs that critique two excerpts from random dating profiles that I’ve come across. Though specific to online dating profiles, the blogs nonetheless provide insight on how (and how not) to market yourself online.
Here is this week’s and I hope it helps:
How to write a dating profile, tip 6:
If you were to ask my friends and family how they would describe me they would say fun, sarcastic, loving, optimistic, kind, compassionate, intelligent, easy going, thoughtful, friendly, outgoing, resourceful, resilient and sweet. I love my family and friends, I enjoy my job, I am not materialistic and I love the fact that I am able to live comfortably without stressing over money. I think I would be most compatible with someone with the same qualities.
Why would someone who’s never met your family and friends care what they think of you? On that note, you probably wouldn’t post their opinions if they weren’t flattering, so they aren’t credible sources anyway.
Rather than tell a potential suitor about the opinion strangers have of you – a person who’s also a stranger – just talk about yourself. By “owning” who you are and not needing to use the opinions of others as validation, you come across more confident.
I understand that there’s a fine line between promoting your benefits and sounding conceited, however listing off qualities about yourself requires a delicate balance whether you’re taking ownership of that list or labeling it as an opinion from others.
Lastly, this is not a strong opener. All online dating profile need to have an engaging introduction so that it grabs the reader’s attention.
How to write a dating profile, tip 7:
I enjoy doing lots of things, have a variety of interests and will try almost anything once. I love to travel and the beach is my favorite place in the world. I enjoy taking walks, playing tennis, roller skating, playing laser tag, boating, going to festivals, museums, concerts, movies, sitting on the deck drinking wine looking at the stars, cooking, etc. I am just missing the person to share the experiences with. I don’t expect the person I am with to like exactly everything I do, and I hope he has lots of his own interests and friends.
This is just one long list of activities and, because it’s so general, it could apply to anyone. When the person talks about sitting on the deck, drinking wine and looking at the stars – that’s much more personalized. It provides a glimpse into the person and, in doing so, promotes some familiarity between the person whose profile it is, and the person who’s reading it.
My suggestion is that you list some activities, but bring others to life with an anecdote or rich description.
For more tips on how to write a great online dating profile, check out the online dating samples of my work and be sure to have a look at this blog early next week. Also, do feel free to send me your profile and I’ll critique an excerpt from it.
If you want to start crafting a better profile right now, get started on uncovering some of your unique traits by completing the personality quiz. It costs nothing to do, but it’s an important first step in writing an online dating profile that stands out. Once you’ve completed it, you can incorporate some the best answers into your dating profile, or you can hire me to do it. I’m trained to know what to pick and where to put it.
Next: Don’t miss the entertaining blog that I post at the end of the week. It provides both self-marketing advice and laughs for singles and couples alike.
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