I read a few dating profiles of single, straight women on a dating site today and decided that I could, quite possibly, put a fork to my eye. Ladies, for the record, the number one most effective form of birth control is a profile of deep emotions that culminates with verses by Rumi.
A lot of the women’s dating profiles read like Harlequin novels – you know those books that are all the rage among men (yes, I’m being facetious and, to those women who were looking for an “intelligant” man, facetious means I’m kidding).
Still others included poems. Poems? Really? Think about this a bit – on a scale from 0 to, well, let’s say 0, so that there’s no mistaking the answer, how likely will a poem attract a gender who falls in love with cars?
Men and women like different things. Not always, but often. Granted more men are cooking. Many are well-groomed. You’ll even see men at yoga classes (though I’m convinced that’s so they can watch the downward dogs from the back of the class). And yes – there are men who love poetry and are in touch with their emotions. Nevertheless, despite evolution, we’re generally two different genders. So, keep that in mind, if you’re online dating and looking for a man.
Consider this uber female experience:
I ran into a lesbian friend of mine one day who was exhausted. It seems she and her girlfriend stayed up all night sharing their feelings and working through a disagreement. “It was great”, she said lovingly and sleep deprived.” Appalled, I retorted, “That – that right there is why I’d never be gay. I’d rather have a sex change than talk all night about my feelings.” Even I couldn’t handle so female an experience, and I can sometimes have more estrogen than a Justin Bieber fan club.
It’s okay to be a romantic. It’s okay to share feelings. It’s okay to love Harlequin romances and poetry. It’s even okay to include a favorite verse on your dating profile. But remember, you’re on a dating site, not a date. This is not the place to pour your heart out.
Instead, be a savvy marketer and consider the environment where your ad will be posted. In your profile’s case, it’s going on the virtual equivalent of a singles bar. So write your profile accordingly. Be engaging, fun, share your interests and provide a positive glimpse to your personality. It’s much more attractive than showing up to the bar sounding lovesick.
This is yet one more reason why singles dating online should hire a professional profile writer to write their online dating profiles – me! With 20 years of ad writing, I’ll not only make your online dating profile stand out, I’ll keep it from sounding like a chick flick manuscript.
For more tips on how to write a great online dating profile, check out the samples of great online dating profiles (sorry for being redundant but “key words” help with search engine optimization.) Or, go straight to the fun free personality quiz. It will help you uncover some of the unique traits that you need to highlight so that you stand out.
