The other day a friend said, “Hey, you look like Brad Pitt”. This disturbed me for three good reasons:
A) I’m a female
B) I don’t have dark blond hair
C) Last I checked (and I check regularly!), I didn’t have facial hair.
Truthfully, it was C that caused me the greatest concern. Thankfully, my worries were pacified when she added, “He was at some show wearing a ponytail too.”
Like many females, I’ve been donning a ponytail off and on since I was about two years old. So, technically, my friend should have said “Hey, Brad Pitt looks like you”, but I suppose that would be expecting too much.
Nevertheless, the insight here is that something as common as a ponytail suddenly became noteworthy because Brad Pitt was seen with one. So think of that as you consider the following:
. A cup of coffee versus a cup of coffee sipped by a fireplace in a 20th century chalet
. Dark chocolate versus dark chocolate made in small batches by a retired Chocolatier
. A hike versus a hike on a snow-capped mountain at sunrise
Do you see how an everyday drink, treat and activity can all become more interesting when they’re linked to something vivid and unique?
Read any dating profile and you’ll see that a lot of people like to travel. A lot of people like to cook. A lot of people like the outdoors. You’ll even see profiles that say, “I love movies. I know a lot of people say that.”
Many of us like the same things. So how do you present these interests on a dating profile without sounding like every other single person out there? By adding your personal twist to them.
For instance, have you ever tried to pick a movie with a few other people? You might suggest action. Meanwhile someone else wants to see a comedy. Meanwhile another friend likes both, but doesn’t like the actors.
The same holds true for trying to find a great place to eat with a group of friends. Some like sushi, others Italian, still others like “absolutely anything as long as there’s no meat, dairy, gluten or sodium”.
In other words, don’t kid yourself – the only thing that makes you like everybody else is that we’re all so different. We spend much of our time, trying to fit in and not bring to much attention to ourselves. The wonderful aspect of online dating is that it gives you a chance to celebrate “you” in all your uniqueness.
A final word about writing your dating profile
If you’re having difficulty finding that “personal twist” then take heart. That’s something else that’s quite common. So, rather than struggle, let me help you. I know how to find your unique touches and then create a profile that’s true to you by using your words, expressions and stories.
Check out the samples of my online dating profiles and see how I do it.
Or, get started with the personality questionnaire and send your answers to me so that I can help you stand out – in all your glory!
PS: A special thank you to my “secret proofreader” who has been kind enough to let me know when he spots my typos!
