All posts tagged with online dating profile writing

Have you played the popular online dating game, “Guess whose profile this is”?

Strangers look at your online dating profile. As such, they have no idea what you look like.  So if you fill your dating profile with pictures of you and your friends, how is anyone able to distinguish you from them? Worse still, what if someone thinks one of your friends is the hot one? A friend of mine said “I know Volvo’s a better pick for the long haul but if it’s sitting next to a Ferrari, I’m taking that… read more

Why do countless online daters think life is short?

I write ads. I write dating profiles. I write a blog about marketing yourself online so that singles can stand out and compete on dating sites. I’ve seen so many online dating profiles claiming, “life is short” that I’m beginning to think I just might be able to max out my credit cards and get away with it. That upside aside, do online daters have some freakishly high mortality rate that I didn’t know about? For the record, I know… read more

Weight loss, hair plugs and confessions of online dating singles.

I saw a profile that proudly, and in caps, exclaimed, “SLIM NOW”.  Congratulations on achieving your goal but divulging that on a site full of strangers is as risky as saying “hair plug surgery went well” or “completed my 12 steps”. Personal struggles don’t belong on a public site. The people you’re addressing are strangers. They don’t know you and don’t care about you. More importantly, you need to go online fully confident and proud of yourself – without apology.… read more

Lol, emoticons and online dating.

Laughter is a great way to break ice and disarm. But don’t put “lol” next to everything you write. I like apples lol. I like swimming lol. I like laugh out loud at my own jokes lol. Seriously, is everything you say “laugh out loud” funny? When I see that throughout an email, all I can picture is someone laughing nervously and uncontrollably. It’s not a confident or inviting impression. Use lol sparingly. Also, those animated bopping emoticons? Think twice.… read more

According to dating sites, singles love life.

It appears that countless singles love life so much; they make a point of saying it on their online dating profiles. It’s usually listed among a person’s various interests such as: I love cycling. I love hiking. I love life. If a day of outdoor activities gets cancelled because of bad weather, I guess it’s good to know that you always have a love of life to fall back on.  One woman even said, “most importantly, I love life”. Clearly… read more

Looking for someone real on online dating sites.

I see “looking for someone real” on a lot of dating profiles. What does that mean? Real as in honest? Real as in down to earth? Real as in you match your profile and you’re not pretending to be someone else? Real as in “no need to inflate”? If a dishonest, egotistical, misrepresenting online dater thinks you’re cute then he or she will contact you whether you like it or not. Think about it. Let’s say a guy who’s a… read more

Dating profiles with photos of sunsets.

I’ve noticed that a lot single men and single women dating online post pictures of sunsets on their dating profiles. I don’t understand this. You’re on match.com, lavalife, yahoo personals or some other such site. You’re not on National Geographic. As it stands saying, “love sunsets” on your dating profile is no more unique than “love to laugh”. Ask yourself this: have you ever heard someone say, “sunsets suck” or heard someone say that they saw an ugly sunset?  You… read more

Overweight, middle-aged man seeks young model…and other delusions you’ll find on dating profiles.

The other day I did a blog on setting your sights higher than the basics. In other words, ask for more than just honesty and decency from your potential online love interests. Today, my blog is on having realistic expectations when onine dating. For some that means setting your sights lower.  Here’s what I mean: I was a guest on a call-in radio show not long ago. One caller complained that he only attracted women who were overweight. He was… read more

Online dating and pictures with children.

Every time I log onto an online dating site, I see a number of dating profiles that feature the person’s child(ren) or grandchild(ren). This is especially true of men’s profiles perhaps because women tend to have a more heightened sense of what’s safe and what’s not. Hence, they rarely post photos of children on a public website. Maybe men think pictures with children will make them look like “nice”, safe guys, which is important in attracting women online. Whatever the… read more

What not to wear on your online dating profile.

In just one page of men’s online dating profiles, I saw one single man completely hidden under a cowboy hat and dark sunglasses. I saw another man, not hidden enough, in a tight undershirt. I also saw a man wearing sunglasses that, for some reason, were across his forehead. The single women fared a bit better though I was a bit confused as to why one woman was dressed in a business suit as waves appeared to be crashing behind… read more