All posts tagged with online dating profiles

How long should you take to reply to an online suitor?

If someone has the courage and interest to send you an email, not only do I suggest you reply with a thanks or no thanks, I also suggest you reply soon – especially if you’re interested. Some online daters take days to reply to someone they’ve actually showed an interest in. It’s as though they sent out numerous emails to to a number of  potential online suitors then waited for replies. Then, they check out the “better” ones first before… read more

Set your standards high enough when online dating.

I scan online dating profiles all the time. What I keep noticing is that a lot of single men and women don’t ask for much. Do these sound familiar:  “looking for a good woman”, “looking for an honest man”? Being a good person and being honest are basics. These are qualities everyone should have and should expect from others. I point these two out as examples that reflect my general observation – people need to raise their standards. In fact,… read more

An interesting singles site. Meet Market Adventures.

If you want to meet singles, check out meetmarketadventures.com. It doesn’t replace large dating sites like Lavalife or Match, but it’s a great addition to them. Meetmarketadventures.com creates fun events for singles. The events range from wine tasting and cooking nights to hiking and horseback riding outings, and they attract (and welcome) members of all ages.  It’s a great way to meet new people with similar interests and to get back some of the interaction that gets lost in the… read more

A really funny online dating profile.

I don’t suggest being negative on a dating profile or going on rants, but I read an online dating profile the other day that had me howling. It’s not necessarily a good example of how to write if you’re looking for a serious relationship. Still, it’s so funny I had to share excerpts: Do not message me if your ex is still stalking you. Do not message me if you go to a tanning salon more than 12 times a… read more

Online dating profiles and “loves to laugh”.

I’m beginning to think that online dating profiles with “I love to laugh” or “looking for someone who loves to laugh” are a bigger pet peeve of mine than emoticons and “lol” put together. First of all, “loves to laugh” is on innumerable dating profiles. So why say something on your online dating profile that everyone else says on theirs?  Instead, do what good advertisers do, check out your competition then find a way to be different and better. More… read more

Your online dating site membership. Be informed.

Did you know that some online dating sites have profiles up that appear to be full members when, in fact, they might not be active or paying members? That is, sometimes a profile is up but the user doesn’t have all the privileges of membership and therefore can’t contact you. So if you try to contact someone and don’t get a reply, don’t feel too dejected. It might be that they don’t even know you’ve tried to make contact. So,… read more

Online dating. More on writing that first email.

To make your email stand out among the others, think up an interesting subject line. After all, your online love interest might get a lot of messages in a day so your subject line has to be an attention grabber. Ideally, try to base it on something you both have in common. Keep your first email short but informative. I’ve had emails sent to me that said “Hi. How are you?” or,  “Hi. Tell me about yourself.”  I find that… read more

How to break ice with an online love interest.

Can’t figure out what to talk about in those first few emails. Here are some tips: First, be sure to read the person’s dating profile. There should be some mutual interests that you can zero in like movies, music or activities. Better still; look for the fun quirky aspects of your online love interest. Does he or she have unusual taste in music or food that you can ask about? What about you – do you have a silly quirk… read more

If your online date doesn’t turn out, blame chemistry.

Presumably wisdom comes with age. I guess I must be eternally youthful because no matter how old I get, I still don’t understand, and can’t explain, chemistry. I’ve been attracted to men who were not at all physically attractive and I’ve not been attracted to men who were good looking.  Chemistry is inexplicable. As such, it’s also a great scapegoat for singles online dating. If your online date wants a second date and you don’t, you can always minimize the… read more

When your online date doesn’t turn out to be anywhere near “the one”.

You’ve sent emails back and forth through your dating site. You’ve spoken on the phone a number of times.  Now you’re there – you’ve made it to the first date with your online suitor. Great, right? Not really. For some reason the chemistry isn’t there. Sometimes there’s nothing “wrong” with the person but there’s nothing really “right” about the person either. So now what? I say, show class and see the date through. If they aren’t creepy, scary, vile or… read more