All posts tagged with writing your dating profile

Unless you have an outstanding face and body, your looks are probably about as good or as bad as millions of other people who are dating online. As such, your dating profile – not your photo – is the only real chance you have to compete. Yet, a lot of singles don’t spend time writing a great profile. Often it’s because they get into online dating half-heartedly and not expecting much. As such, they don’t put much into it. The… read more →

Bet you didn’t know that “Happy Birthday to you” has a copyright value of $5 million US. Given that statistic, I have to figure there’s a really rich, really happy eccentric out there who’s collecting millions from the following profile. It’s high in popularity but low in distinctiveness:   Looking for my soulmate, are you out there? (That headline alone must be worth millions in royalties and is second only to “life is short”). I luv life (as opposed to… read more →

I write ads. I write dating profiles. I write a blog about marketing yourself online so that singles can stand out and compete on dating sites. I’ve seen so many online dating profiles claiming, “life is short” that I’m beginning to think I just might be able to max out my credit cards and get away with it. That upside aside, do online daters have some freakishly high mortality rate that I didn’t know about? For the record, I know… read more →

I saw a profile that proudly, and in caps, exclaimed, “SLIM NOW”.  Congratulations on achieving your goal but divulging that on a site full of strangers is as risky as saying “hair plug surgery went well” or “completed my 12 steps”. Personal struggles don’t belong on a public site. The people you’re addressing are strangers. They don’t know you and don’t care about you. More importantly, you need to go online fully confident and proud of yourself – without apology.… read more →

Laughter is a great way to break ice and disarm. But don’t put “lol” next to everything you write. I like apples lol. I like swimming lol. I like laugh out loud at my own jokes lol. Seriously, is everything you say “laugh out loud” funny? When I see that throughout an email, all I can picture is someone laughing nervously and uncontrollably. It’s not a confident or inviting impression. Use lol sparingly. Also, those animated bopping emoticons? Think twice.… read more →

It appears that countless singles love life so much; they make a point of saying it on their online dating profiles. It’s usually listed among a person’s various interests such as: I love cycling. I love hiking. I love life. If a day of outdoor activities gets cancelled because of bad weather, I guess it’s good to know that you always have a love of life to fall back on.  One woman even said, “most importantly, I love life”. Clearly… read more →

I see “looking for someone real” on a lot of dating profiles. What does that mean? Real as in honest? Real as in down to earth? Real as in you match your profile and you’re not pretending to be someone else? Real as in “no need to inflate”? If a dishonest, egotistical, misrepresenting online dater thinks you’re cute then he or she will contact you whether you like it or not. Think about it. Let’s say a guy who’s a… read more →

I’ve noticed that a lot single men and single women dating online post pictures of sunsets on their dating profiles. I don’t understand this. You’re on match.com, lavalife, yahoo personals or some other such site. You’re not on National Geographic. As it stands saying, “love sunsets” on your dating profile is no more unique than “love to laugh”. Ask yourself this: have you ever heard someone say, “sunsets suck” or heard someone say that they saw an ugly sunset?  You… read more →

The other day I did a blog on setting your sights higher than the basics. In other words, ask for more than just honesty and decency from your potential online love interests. Today, my blog is on having realistic expectations when onine dating. For some that means setting your sights lower.  Here’s what I mean: I was a guest on a call-in radio show not long ago. One caller complained that he only attracted women who were overweight. He was… read more →

Every time I log onto an online dating site, I see a number of dating profiles that feature the person’s child(ren) or grandchild(ren). This is especially true of men’s profiles perhaps because women tend to have a more heightened sense of what’s safe and what’s not. Hence, they rarely post photos of children on a public website. Maybe men think pictures with children will make them look like “nice”, safe guys, which is important in attracting women online. Whatever the… read more →