All posts tagged with writing your online dating profile

You know those motivational books that tell you to smile at yourself in the mirror every day? Few people ever take the advice. Know why?  Because it feels really silly. Unless you’re Anthony Robbins flashing yourself a smile can feel forced and awkward – and it shows. This is precisely why you shouldn’t take your own online dating profile picture. I scan hundreds of dating profiles on all the major sites from Match.com to POF to Jdate. No one takes… read more →

Some online daters take humor way too seriously. Here are some quotes I took from dating profiles I found on just one online dating site: I love a sense of humor because humor helps us see things in a pro-active light. I love people with a sense of humor because humor gives us perspective. To find humor and an intense connection, that is my mantra. Wow, talk about somber. I’d probably find more levity in a scientology pamphlet. If you… read more →

When I see an online dating profile that says “tired of being alone”, do I think “don’t let this tiger get away”?. No. Not ever. “Tired of being alone” makes me think you’re desperately lonely. By that I mean “bring bread to a park and even pigeons wouldn’t keep you company” kind of lonely. Saying “tired of being alone” sounds as though no one wants to be around you. If you’re on match.com, Lavalife, Plenty of Fish, or any of… read more →

“No drama, no games” is such a popular instruction on online dating profiles that I even see it in the headlines. Does anyone really think that’ll work? Imagine an ad saying, “no cyclists” or “no cooks” or “no bichon frise owners”.  I bet every cyclist, cook and little dog owner would read it. By putting “no drama, no games” in your profile, you’re attracting the very people you want to avoid. Lindsay Lohan herself might drunk dial you. Besides, do… read more →

A little while ago, I noticed “truly hip” people (the quotation marks used here are symbolic of dripping sarcasm) throwing around the expression I heart rather than I love. Evidently, it was meant to be cute. As a writer, I found it annoying. I’m fine with heart as a symbol for love. After all, who doesn’t like the ads: I (heart symbol) New York. However, to use it instead of love in a sentence is as contrived as putting little… read more →

Profile picture of a woman in a bikini and heels. Profile picture of a woman in a bath towel. Profile picture of cleavage. Profile picture of cleavage and a tattoo. Profile picture of a man holding a newborn baby. Profile picture of man with arm around elderly mother. Profile picture of man kissing a litter of puppies. I’m picking up on a theme. I’ve noticed a lot of women who seem to think that the way to a man’s heart… read more →

Some people have “interview” dates where they meet and chat briefly over coffee before deciding whether or not to have “real” follow up date. Give me a break!  How many people are great under that kind of pressure? Unless you’re meeting a standup comic or Anthony Robbins (who, btw, is married), chances are most people – including yourself – won’t be able to come across dynamic, interesting, sincere, friendly, funny, hip, cool, different “in a good way”, sexy, sweet, affectionate,… read more →

I just found out there’s a “Dating for Dummies” book. There are so many books out there for dummies that I feel like an idiot for not having one. I’m lying. I have two – one on yoga and another on European history. I’ve read neither so that makes me a moron for wasting my money. That said, apparently Dating for Dummies has been well received. Psychologist Joy Browne covers a number of pertinent topics so that singles enjoy dating… read more →

I heard a radio show recently asserting that, every month, single men and women spend between $100 to a full $1000 on dates, as well as everything to do with dating from buying the perfect fitting shirt to getting the hopeful bikini wax. I don’t know how accurate the stat is but I do believe that singles spend a fair bit of their change and time on looking attractive. Yet they’ll join a dating site and spend little time and… read more →