Your online dating profile is not a diary!

Every day, I’m struck by how many people use online dating profiles as an opportunity to whine about the trials of finding love. I saw several headlines that asked, “Are all the good guys taken?” I saw still others that said, “Tired of the players”. I saw one that said, “Don’t want to be hurt again”. Ugh. Victims, sooooo sexy.

It seems that the depressing quest for love is not limited to older people who’ve spent years looking. The other day I read a dating profile on Plenty of Fish from a guy who lamented that he’s been looking for the right one his “whole life”. He was 21 years old. Apparently, though barely out of his Clearasil years, love has eluded him. In fact, he said he has searched and searched and this was his last hope.

I also read the online dating profile of a woman named Amanda who has been trying to find a good guy “forever” and wondered if she should just accept being single for the rest of her life. She was all of 22 years old.

I know that finding love is important at any age. I don’t minimize the trials. However, when you’re still at an age where you don’t need Botox or extra fiber, then I’d say your chances are pretty good. Look at Hef. He’s still finding love at 84. Sure he has to find it with women who probably keep trim by regurgitating every time he French kisses them– nevertheless, love it is.

That said, whether you’re young or old, being negative, desperate and tortured on your online dating profile, will have about as much sex appeal as Woody Allen. Negativity is not sexy. Plus, you could end up sounding as though you’re so unpopular that no one wants you. Imagine if a restaurant advertised how hard it is to find good customers? No one would eat there!

Dating profiles are not diaries, journals or blogs. They’re marketing opportunities. Good advertisers always take a positive spin and promote their best attributes. It’s fundamental in getting people to find their product or service more appealing than someone else’s.

So, instead of turning people off with wrenching monologues, turn them on with light-hearted engaging anecdotes that accentuate positive personality traits. Better still, hire me to do it. As a ad writer and professional online dating profile writer, I’m trained to spin information in a positive way. More importantly, everyone has wonderful traits that are well worth promoting. I’ll help you uncover them.

Check out the online dating samples of my work. Better still, go straight to the personality quiz. It costs nothing but will help you uncover some of your unique traits, which is the first step in writing a great online dating profile.